Behind the Curtain Wall: Matt Dunham
In the facade industry we mostly talk about performance, on-time and on-budget deliveries or complex solutions. What we talk about far less, or not at all, is the personal pressure behind the projects. Today’s guest in our blog is Matt Dunham, a former Facade Projects Director who spent decades working on major projects before experiencing a chronic stress and exhaustion in his early 50s. That turning point led him to step away from the corporate world and start a new path in a certified Advanced Oxygen Advantage instructor, and the founder of a structured online programme for individuals and businesses alike. It’s an entirely different blog post than anything we have done so far, and one that we highly recommend to read at. It’s an honest and thoughtful discussion that many professionals in engineering, design, and construction industry may relate to. In this conversation, Matt reflects on: The hidden pressures of our industry. The early warning signs of burnout. The identity crisis we experience. #facadeengineering #construction #leadership #wellbeing #burnout #engineering Skyline Facades: Can you tell us a few things about your career? Matt: I spent just over 30 years in the construction industry, the majority of that in the facade sector. It started when I was thrown in at the deep end in Dubai in 1999. I had about six months of experience at that point and very little idea of what I was doing, honestly. But I adapted. I learned enough Arabic to communicate on site, worked six days a week and somehow delivered. That first project taught me I was more capable than I’d ever given myself credit for. From there the career built. I came back to the UK in 2004, joined a leading facade company and was made a director 2 years later. Over the following 17 years I managed projects and worked with teams across the UK, China and Switzerland. The roles were complex, high value, high liability. Everything the industry is known for. I left that world at the end of 2023. I have been running Matt Dunham Wellness, my own acupuncture and breathwork clinic in Co. Galway, Ireland and I also run Seven Rivers Wellness alongside my wife Sandra. Skyline: What did success look like from the outside? Matt: From the outside, it looked exactly the way society tells you it should. Director title, company car and project experience from around the world. There were moments I was genuinely proud of. Delivering a complex project, being trusted with major contracts, having people respect the title. I’d worked hard for all of it and it felt like validation that I was worth something. But the title became the identity. I can remember walking around the local town and thinking, “I’m a director, I’m doing well, that’s who I am.” I wasn’t thinking much about who I actually was underneath that. The external markers were everything. And looking back, that’s the thing nobody warns you about: when success becomes your entire identity, you become very fragile. Because when you realise that identity isn’t actually you you’ve nowhere you fall back to, you’ve lost touch with who you actually are. Skyline: But it’s often said that success comes with a cost. What was your cost? Matt: The honest answer is that I paid it across several different areas simultaneously, and I didn’t see most of it at the time. The most obvious cost was in relationships. In my earlier years I was aggressive, I thought that was how you got respect and got things done. What it actually did was create an island for myself. When things got hard at work, as they always do eventually, the people I’d been dismissive of weren’t rushing to help. I’d earned that. At home, the cost was time and presence. At one stage I was commuting two to two and a half hours each way into London every day. I was leaving before the children woke up and then wanting to get back before they went to bed. That created a tug of war between the family man in me and the man who wanted to do a good job. I would say I felt like I was below my best on both counts. The real cost, though, was identity. I had to become someone different to function in that environment. Every morning felt like putting on a mask. And eventually, maintaining that version of yourself takes everything you’ve got, and it got very uncomfortable, I literally felt like someone else whilst I was at work. Skyline: When was the turning point in your life? Matt: There were a few moments that each contributed, but the one I come back to is 2015. I ended up flat on the floor of our house in England with severe back spasms. I couldn’t move for 48 hours. And during those two days of enforced stillness, something shifted. I had time, for the first time in years, to actually think. And the clarity that came out of that was uncomfortable. We needed to completely change our lives. What compounded it was realising that when I was genuinely struggling, most of the people I thought had my back didn’t show up. That was a very sharp lesson about how transactional a lot of relationships had become. Not entirely their fault, to be fair. We’d bought a house in Ireland the year before. Sandra is Irish, and moving there felt like the right reset. We relocated in 2016 which was great but slowly I started to see the same patterns emerging and I started to feel genuinely unfulfilled in the corporate world around 2017, and enrolled in a three-year acupuncture course in 2018. Another pivotal moment that changed everything was a breathing retreat in Costa Rica in early 2023. Sandra was going to book it for herself and I didn’t want to miss a trip like that so I read a few books and went along with no real expectations. Within the first day
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